If you and I were able to have one last cup of coffee …

from the sticks to the bricks and back again

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If, today, you and I were able to sit at your kitchen table and talk over a cup of coffee just one last time, I would …

… tell you to pour some Sambuca (the good kind, not the generic anisette you always settled for) in our cups. Today is, after all, your eightieth birthday.

… bake you a batch of sesame cookies; the kind I cursed Stella D’Oro for not making anymore the year you were dying and kept asking for your favorite cookies.

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Happy Birthday Dad! Love, Your Favorite

Today would have been my Dad’s 85th birthday. It is hard to believe that today is the 18th year, we have marked his birthday without him.

from the sticks to the bricks and back again

IMG_1218 Dad blowing out the candles on his 66th Birthday.

Today would have been my father’s 84th birthday had he not passed away suddenly at the age of 66 from an aneurysm in his stomach.  To say my relationship with my father was and is complicated would be an understatement.  But then again, aren’t all relationships complicated?  I think our relationship was more complicated than most because I was his favorite daughter and sometimes we disappointed each other.

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Favorite Episodes: Why Do I Relay?

tvJanuary is a time for looking back at the prior year, our wins and losses.   Favorite Episodes is a way for me to look back at what I’ve written in 2015 that was well received by my readers while diving into my blog stats and editorial calendar.  Over the next few weeks, I will be posting little or no new original content. Instead I am reblogging some of my most popular posts from 2015 and developing a Favorite Episodes Season Three page in the process. Continue reading

Forever Family: murky waters, final installment

The first installment of Forever Family is out. Join the Friday conversation at Riddle from the Middle.

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There’s no doubt about it – that “murky waters” conversation stayed with me for quite a while.  It lurked in the back of my mind, poking me periodically to make sure I didn’t forget about it.  I wanted to scream Of course I haven’t forgotten!  Those big adoption moments (aka BAMs) tend to simmer while I work out where I landed on the spectrum of I handled that one okay to Wow, I blew that big time. 

My English-major-nerdiness really screwed me over that night when the different connotations for ‘mom’ and ‘mother’ messed with my head.  T-man’s relationship with Miss C can ebb and flow with the tides, and I’d started thinking of her more along the lines of “birthmother.”  This may seem like a small distinction, but it affects how I see her.  And that interferes with remembering how T-man sees her.

At any rate, after about a week of mulling over our what’s a mom? conversation I realized I…

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Friday conversations – Forever Family launches tomorrow!

Have you visited Riddle from the Middle today?

She’s launching a new feature tomorrow called Forever Family. I’ve read the posts that led up to this and I’m sure this feature will be thought provoking, pull at our heartstrings and hopefully encourage dialogue. Take a minute to read this announcement and show T’man and Bear’s mom some love and encouragement by liking and commenting. She’d be more than happy to have you join in on Friday conversations.

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Last week I wrote several posts that really stuck with me.  These (part 1 and part 2) lingered in the back of my mind for days, patiently waiting for me to sift through all the questions they’d raised and emotions they’d evoked. It was a lot to process, but spending that time with it eventually led to a really good heart to heart with T-man. I’ll be writing about that in tomorrow’s blog.

I gained a greater appreciation for my son’s point of view, but along with that understanding came an idea that grew until it wouldn’t be ignored.  Adoption, while not the most important aspect of our family, certainly plays a very big part in who we are and how we approach certain experiences.  This is why I’m going to start a weekly feature on Fridays called Forever Family.


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Be Thankful Challenge


First. I would like to thank Steph from ScaleSimple for nominating me for this challenge and reminding me to be grateful.  Happy Thanksgiving, Steph and all my neighbors to the north in Canada.

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October Facebook Page Promotion Give Away Announced

Maybe it’s because I woke up this morning and it’s The First of Octember.   Maybe it’s because my beloved Boston Red Sox beat the Yankees 9-5 yesterday, delaying The Evil Empire from clinching its first playoff berth in three years. Continue reading